Most people don't like going into an attorney's office almost as much as they despise going to the dentist. However, much like those who refuse to see the dentist on a regular basis, those who refuse to seek wise counsel find themselves in situations that could have been prevented. Or worse yet, they find themselves on opposite sides of Machiavelli attorneys who take what they can from whomever they can as often as they can. Despite the fact that wise counsel is often the right counsel, people will continually do what they know based on their perception of truth colored by their reality. Accordingly, here are 4 tips you should consider in order to represent yourself instead of playing yourself.
1. Justice is about the laws, rules and regulations as deemed as right by individuals who are paid to govern and/or judge the masses. Hence, no one cares about you, your tears or your sob story about what had happened. Therefore, when you decide to represent yourself, put on your objective hat and become the student of what's relevant to your issues. Accordingly, to prepare for the day in court or the day you represent your interests in a legal contract, do what lawyers do: read the law, study it and see what provision helps you get what you want.
2. Contracts should not be cut and pasted from random places. Instead, force yourself to think like a business man or woman who is always looking for ways to make money or save money. Ensure your contracts are signed by those who you can sue, ensure that they are nontransferable and ensure that your state has jurisdiction over any and all disputes. You might even want to make sure that your contract states somewhere that you would be fully reimbursed for legal fees and costs if you have to retain counsel upon breach.
3. Don't stress over things you can't change. Litigation brings out the worse in people; trust me I spent too many years in court so much so that I became the angry woman who interrogated everybody. Unfortunately, some people only know to fight and some folks fight because they feel forced to fight. However, if you don't want to fight, then don't fight over anything that doesn't bring you peace, joy and happiness. Instead, focus on what matters most and ignore the pettiness throughout the in between.
4. Team work makes the dream work. Oftentimes you'll need help from others whose wisdom, knowledge, understanding and perspective is beyond what you see. If you need support, find an accountability partner or loving mirror that keeps you anchored to what matters most. Even if the accountability partner happens to be an attorney versed in the law, hire him/her to serve as your legal coach to help you achieve your dream.
I can go on and on based on what I've seen and heard as a former trial attorney, but this is one blog post and we can probably share war stories well through the New Year. But the bottom line is that when in a foreign space/place do as the successful by playing to win instead of playing the fool. And now that you know better, I hope you play better the next time you find yourself forced to represent yourself.
Strategy Maven, Toni Moore, Esquire is an author, speaker, teacher and legal coach who offers business and legal information, strategies and solutions ("BLISS") Tips to educate, edify and empower women to win in every aspect of their lives. Let's stay connected? Twitter/Instagram: Tonimooreesq.
Toni Moore, Esq.
Toni is an attorney and business coach who is committed to helping women uplevel their success.
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